WHAT TO EXPECT OR FACING THE REALITY

At the beginning maasai beachboy will be very nice to you, gentle, polite and friendly. He will bomb you with "love" at beginning. This behavior he has learned from those who are already longer time on the beach.  They are in general not too respectful to women because in culture of Maasais the woman hasn't same rights compared to men. We don't complain here about Maasai culture, it's not our business, neither topic of this blog. We are only trying to explain some cultural differences between western cultures and people from tribe of Maasais. Woman in maasai community is not equal with a man - woman has there inferior position. And for maasais the woman is still just only a woman. If she is white, black, pink or yellow, she's only a woman and maasai men will not respect her. If a maasai beachboy will be nice, it doesn't mean that he loves you (he does not love you), it just means he needs your money. If he would be visible stupid and mean, you would run away before he would get from you what he wants. This all of them already know. They need to be nice at beginning  otherwise they would not catch any white woman easily. 

In the very early stage they also can pay for you little things like bracelets, lunch in local restaurant or taxi back to your hotel. But it's only part of their tactics how to hunt you and it will be also the last money/gift you will ever see from them. It's the important step how to catch you and manipulate you in way as they need. Their tactics is always the same. They cannot create their own way how to lie, that's why they will copy those guys, who had already success before and that's why it's very easy to unhide their game. It's always the same because the scenario is written in advance. It's like their bible they all need and will follow.

The first bigger change will come after your departure from the country. For this moment they really waited for a long time, because honestly saying - they don't like your company at all ! They like your money but are really tired of you. They hope in your early departure which will give them their freedom back. And maasai men really love their freedom more than anything else. 

It's what they impatiently expect - to see your butt in the plane. ASAP. One of many reason why they can't survive your company is that white women are VERY different from maasais girls and wives. Often we don't respect men in general, we don't obey easily and automatically, we have our own head, we make always drama for many reasons, we are jealous, we are mostly doing what we want without asking them.  In short - the white woman is for a maasai just the nightmare. Maasais don't like this behavior, they are not used to face anything like that, they need and expect full respect, so they really don't want and they don't need any white woman next to them. Not for other reason than getting money and creating passive income from her. And for this they need as many white women as possible for getting as many passive incomes as possible. You will be not the first one, not the last one and also not the only one who will support their black souls with your money. You also will hear from him many times WHAT HE DOESN'T LIKE. He will complain a lot, but you will never hear from him the question - what DO YOU LIKE. He is not interested in that. What he doesn't like you will exactly know because he will inform you about that often, but what you don't like? Who cares? Certainly not a maasai beachboy. 

But let's continue our story.... When you will be back home, your beachboy will write you regularly (mostly daily) - the love-bombing phase will still last. But after few weeks he will suddenly  disappear for 3 - 7 days what will be very strange - because it will happen without any warning, without any story before, he will just disapear. But don't worry! After short time he will be back with a story - most common story is that someone stole his phone in the bush and now he has to write from the phone of his friends - to be able to reach you and inform you about this nonpleasant situation. And of course if you want to be in contant with him AS BEFORE you have to send him money for new phone. Some of them will wait little bit with the story with lost phone - they will start more slowly, they will just tell you there was no signal in the bush.  But you can be very sure - they exactly know where is good signal and you can be also sure nobody stole them their phone. But this disappearing is very important. It will ALWAYS happen and it's the way how they will have proofs that the hunt was successful. Mostly women react like "I was so scared that something bad happened to you, I am so happy you are back". And this will be for them a proof that you are caught in their trap. Sometimes they can also tell you heart-breaking story about injuries from motorcycle and how they spent last days in hospital. They love to manipulate women through the drama. Your attention is for them the proof of successful hunt. After this stage they  can and they will finally start with usage. They must proceed slowly as they don't want to scare you before getting your money.

The usage will first start with the phone. Maasai will tell you he needs the phone to be in contact with you because he loves you :) and he cannot live without you ANYMORE. He can have the newest phone from the last white lover but he will never show you and you will buy him (bring him/send him) new one. So one of those two he can sell and he will. For them money is everything.

So real usage with asking money from you will follow after:

FIRST STEP - if they are still at Zanzibar and you still didn't pay them the way back, they will ask you money for going home. Real costs is around 60 000 Tsh (25 dollars) including of one night in DAR. But they will ask you big money only because they think you don't have any idea about prices in Tanzania. And they are right, most of women don't know anything about local prices. Mostly they can ask around 500 000 Tsh, what is 10 times more than real price. They will also tell you how impossible is to go directly home, they love DAR and they will need overnight there. But it's completely possible to go home in one day without any night in DAR.

SECOND STEP - they will ask you money for hospital. Very often they will pretend some injury at home and you are that one who will pay for hospital (of course unreal money) or someone from family will be deadly sick, needed just your help. They will send you a lot of pictures, full of blood, broken skin, all the effects But mostly they use old pictures, or pictures of other people. You can be sure if hospital costs 30 000 Tsh, they will ask 3 millions from you :) They really can pay 30 000 Tsh for the hospital but rest of your money will go to their pocket. 

THIRD STEP - you will buy the cattle. Price for one small cow can be around 200 000 Tsh. Big one - double price. Cows are for them very important, only with cows they can have a wife. They have a lot of money in cows. Cows are also the way how to earn money - buying / selling cows is common business there. More cows - more money - more respect - more wives - more children.

AFTER THIS it's time to start with business. They will try to tell you they need business to be able to stay at home in Tanzania (instead of going back to Zanzibar). They all know very well how jealous white women are, so they know exactly that you don't like to see them at Zanzibar anymore. So you will pay for business but nothing will change because still they will always try to go to Zanzibar as soon as possible and you will not know about that. You will not stop them and one source of money is for them really not enough. More women - more sources - more income - more money. They need to work on backup door and they will. There are many ways what they will ask you. But mostly they ask two things: motorcycle or shop in Tanzania :-)

AFTER BUSINESS (sometimes before business) you will be asked for building house with iron roof for him (or for his parents). He will tell you "also for you", having a lot of fun from your stupidity). Of course, it will be only for him. House will be not for you and you can be sure with that. You can even build it for other white women who will come to replace you soon. To own something in Tanzania is not easy, everything you will build there will be written on his name. You will not own anything and it will come a day, he will send you away, and put new mzungu to "your house". It's not your house, it never was your house and it will be never your house. He is the only owner and it will be like that forever. That's it. These people mostly don't have any moral, they will take you all what you have without feeling any sorry. And you can be sure, to get a justice in Tanzania is very very difficult, if not impossible. Especially if you are just a tourist. Those women who are living there for a long time - they know already how to protect themselves at least partly, but you - as someone fresh in Africa, you will be lost. And justice will not come to help you. You will loose all your money there easily. Nobody will feel sorry for you. 

AFTER HOUSE he will need the plot for maize farm, and then plot next to plot and other plot also  :) Plot in the village, plot out of the village, plot for cows, plot for farms, for new house. Just one plot is never enough. If you think, you will give money to someone and after you will have paper of ownership with your name - this is not how it can happen. To own something is very difficult, without real project they will not put your name on any paper. "PROJECT" doesn't mean to build the house for you and your maasai lover. 

AND THEN FINALLY SPECTACULAR FINISH and also end of your "love story" - they will manipulate you to make big business like guesthouse in Tanzania or house at Zanzibar. Mostly women fortunately will not be able to come so far (they are not rich enough or not stupid and naive enough), only those very silly and blind can go until here ;) Most of women will end somewhere in the middle and will be blocked by their lovers forever, whatever they already gave them. You will NEVER see your money again. All will stay with him and you will not have ANY CHANCE to get your money or property back. Not in Tanzania !  POLICE WILL NOT HELP YOU IN THIS CASE !!!!       NOBODY WILL !  So count  with that !

ALL money you will give him and all property you will buy him will be his own forever, because white person cannot own almost anything in Tanzania EASILY. It's possible of course but you need a lot of papers, lot of bureaucracy, lot of money and lot of time, so he will tell you it will be more easier to write all on his name and this will be the end for you. 

Beachboy will never do anything for white woman. All they are doing for you , they are doing with own goals and for own profits only. It's always a part of the tactics how to get your money and they are the best in this. You are, you were and you will stay only source of his money forever. All what he will do, he will do only for himself and his MAASAI family in the bush. You are not any priority for him and you cannot be. There is no love from his side, no feelings to you, it is only pure usage, manipulation and abuse. All will be just about him. Questions about you - you will never hear. You are just not important. After you next woman will come immediately and then next one and then next one. You are only a number in the very long row.

In the moment you will give him all what you have (and you don't have anymore anything to give him) he will not need you anymore. Next step then will be to replace you. 

He will start to make some drama with you and after theatre he will just block you. Here your role has finished already. And here will be end of the "love" story and for him the time for new one. The fresh victim will not have any idea about this game. It is not rare that beachboys have more white women at same time, so all the trips to Zanzibar or to Tanzania have to be well planned to avoid some collisions :-) They don't like any surprises, don't even try that. If you think, you will make him happy if you will come without telling him - you are wrong. It will be day of big drama :) But only for you. For him to loose you doesn't mean a big drama - still he will have others in whatsapp or facebook as backup. If not, he will find on the beach new one.. just tomorrow. Wait for it.

If you will be not nice enough and you will not send him money always when he will ask, he will block you repeatedly (but only for short time). After a while, he will always unblock you because he will not want to loose the wallet. At least NOT NOW. Not until he  will get enough money from you :-)

You will be just replaced, because beachboy is not able to earn any money in normal way. No education, no abilities in any crafts and this way is for them the chance how to get big money without any effort. Once they will start (and if you found him on the beach, he started already), they will never stop. Easy money (Your money) will make them to be weak to stop and to go back to normal, moral and honest life. 

One of the special method how to get your money is to ask you for the LOAN.

For them the loan means automatically just a GIFT. Once you will give them money, you will never see it again ! (the only little chance you have, if you are living there for a long time or if you are coming back repeatedly). So money will stay with him. And if you will start to ask your money back, he will be VERY VERY angry and he will block you immediately. For him it will be just incomprehensible betrayal, that you are asking YOUR money back. He will not understand. He will not give you your money back and he will know it from beginning. Only one who doesn't know about that is you. Loan is always just a gift. Remember it when he will try to ask you. It's only one of many methods how to get your money and this method is extremely effective. If situation will be really bad and you will not stop to ask, then only one button in their phone (which you gave to them) will be enough to stop this responsibility for the loan forever. He will block you and nothing like loan from you has ever happened to him. Problem solved. How beautiful. How easy. Sometimes someone can really trust he will give you back ONCE. But for them, once can be in 10 years, or in twenty years. They have strong belief, your money are never-ending and also those of them who don't have bad intention with you, will not feel any pressure to give you your money back. They will take a time for giving you your money back. A lot of time. 

 

Also is very important to take you home. There will be everything prepared especially for your visit. And of course he will tell you, you are the first white woman there, you are his first mzungu girlfriend (what will be just next  pure lie). Because of language barrier you will not be able to find any truth easily or quickly plus his family members OFTEN will covering his lies. It's not rare that his own wife is taking care about you, knowing exactly all what he is doing with you but she has to be just quiet. You will never know that one was his wife. He will introduce her like his sister who has husband working out of home, or sister who was running back home from violent husband. Or he will tell  you she is a wife of his brother. You will never know the truth (until you will start with real and serious investigation - what can be a big problem in two weeks of holiday). With investigation, slowly you will know, step by step you will find all (or many) of his lies, but it will take you many months. But women who are living in Tanzania, especially in the bush for longer time, they know all. Beachboys can hide something for 2 weeks, but not for 2 months. They will be tired soon of acting and they will start to make many small mistakes. Then you will start to understand their game. And you will be shocked. There is always a reason to be shocked.

Taking you home is important because then they will manipulate you easily through children or women. You as white person, you will make strong connection to children and to women in the bush and they know it. Few examples of his manipulation: "That little girl who loves you so much is in hospital with malaria and she is near to death if we will not pay, she will die and now I don't have money to pay" or "My mother is asking me each day when you will come again. She misses you and loves you so much". In the reality, nobody there loves you that much. To be honest - everyone there only needs your money. They have ENOUGH own maasais girls and women for being wives or lovers. They don't need any mzungus for these roles.