THE AGE IS ONLY THE NUMBER

Maybe yes... But for sure not in the tribe of Maasai.

As everything else, also the rules regarding the age inside of the Maasai community is strictly defined. 

Among Maasai the aging can be taken from different angles and for understanding how it is, you need to know from which side and from which position you look at it.

AGING IN GENERAL: as we all know already, the whole Maasai community is managed trough AGE-SET system. As the name is saying - the age plays very important role in the life of each and every Maasai. Going trough all the age stages, the social status of Maasai in the tribe is changing (especially in the world of Maasai men). And not only social status but also the responsibilities and roles inside of the tribe. 

While old people in Western world are often a burden on the social system and they can feel unnecessary, isolated and unwanted, in Maasai culture with older age comes respect and reverence. That's why Maasais don't need to be sad about the aging, because more old they are - more respect they get. And this is something nice about the Maasai culture.  

AGING OF WOMEN: with the women the aging is not that much pretty thing even not in tribe of Maasai. It's worse than in Europe. While in Europe the woman in age around 30 is still a young woman - ready to start the family with her partner, in tribe of Maasai the woman in her early 30' is already out of view. And Maasai are always choosing very young girls for the wedding, also those men who are very old are choosing much younger women, sometimes 2 or more generation younger. It has some kind of sense. The woman is the most fertile in the age around 16. After that all is going slowly down. Men produce always the fresh sperms but women are born with exact amount of the eggs and those eggs are aging with the woman, new eggs are not producing somewhere in the body during the life-time. So yes, it has a sense to have the children with a girl in her 16.  On other side - how many women do you know who had children after 25, after 30, after 35 and also after 40 and many of those children are smart, beautiful, healthy and happy. In short - they are completely ok. So if you don't plan to have over 15 children with one woman - it is not giving any sense to marry only that one who is 16. But this is a habit of the Maasai, they marry only very young girls. If a Maasai is 20 or 25, there is no chance for him to marry a woman from Maasai tribe who is older. It's also not normal for a Maasai who is 30 to marry a Maasai woman who is 30. First of all - all the women in age 30 are already married and second it's really not normal to marry a woman who is older than a man or who is in the same age. There are many Maasai girls in age 16 in the tribe so why the Maasai should marry that one who is 30. And the woman (Maasai) who is 30 and still single almost doesn't exist. 

In Maasai tribe there is no love as we know it, there is no mental connection to a woman, or feelings, the woman there is taken like a tool for giving babies to a man and to his family. So woman can be easily replaced by other one. To give a child is the most important function of a woman in the tribe, otherwise the woman has no value for them. 

Note under the line: to be fair I need to add that if the woman is not able to give the child to her husband - it can be a reason for the divorce but mostly Maasai will simply marry next wife who will give him children and that one who can't have a child will stay in the family of her husband and she will help to rise other children born from other wives. So again something nice - such a woman is not in isolation out of the community, despite the fact that her value for the tribe is very small (without ability to have  children). These women can still be alive in the Maasai bush and nobody bullies them. Often the Maasai women can have a problem to have a baby, because the Maasai men are very promiscuous, fucking not only mzungus at Zanzibar but also Swahili girls (often female local prostitutes) and this is the way how they can transmit different STD to  their wives. Some sexual transmitted diseases can cause infertility. 

As was mentioned here already - the women around 30 are married. So it's not possible for the Maasai to find woman in that age. And what if a woman is a widow ? No young woman who is still able to have babies can be a real widow in the tribe of Maasai. The reason is that if the man will die - all his wives will become to be wives of his brother. Normally we can get as a heritage the house, maybe the car, maybe the money, plots, maybe the cattle, but they - they will get as a heritage also the wives and children of the brother who died. So if your Maasai boyfriend has only one child and one wife today, tomorrow he can have 3 wives and 10 children - it's enough if his brother who was married already - having children, will die. He will get all those wives and he will continue to fuck them. (btw. not always the death is necessary, brothers are fucking the wives of each other without any problems, in-between the family). It's called "wife-sharing". In the past this was very common habit among the Maasai. Today it's not the daily routine in the tribe, but it's normal. Everyone knows about that and everyone accepts it. Sometimes also a white woman can experience this - that during the absence of her Maasai boyfriend - his brother can come into the cottage in the night and he can try to fuck her. It's not anything incredible for them, but I have just the feeling that it's not that much common today as it was in the past. Wife-sharing still exists in the Maasai culture, but maybe in smaller extend. That's why the Maasai girls and women are not jealous that much, they understand that to share the husband with other women is normal and nobody will judge anyone for doing that. It's just allowed, maybe not wanted as before but still allowed. And what about mzungu ? With mzungu the Maasai woman doesn't feel any jealousy at all. Maasai women know very well that mzungu is nothing else but the wallet for the Maasai man. They don't like white women as well (the same as men don't like us), but they understood it's all about getting money and Maasai women as everyone else in Maasai community love money the most, more than anything. 

How and why someone can think that 10 years difference between a Maasai and the mzungu (where the Maasai is younger) is normal. It's not normal for the Maasai - it's actually the shame and Maasai will never count into the future with anyone who is older than him. Also 4 years difference is already tricky and Maasai can feel bad about it. Now imagine the difference which is over 10 years. No way. There is no love - no future - no respect - there is only the pure usage. Also when the white woman is 32 and her Maasai is 23 - it's no gone zone. The only reason why Maasai can go so down and he is able to date older woman is the money and nothing else.

Who is the bride of the Maasai ?

She's always the young fresh girl in age around 16. For a Maasai who is 20 is to marry a Maasai woman who is 30 or 40 unthinkable. It cannot happen in any circumstances. In that tribe where the age is only the number :))) - it never can happen. 

But like a miracle - with a Mzungu it is suddenly very possible. White women should ask themselves WHY it should be possible? Because of money. That's the right answer.

They will prepare a wedding ceremony which is only an embarrassing and humiliating  theatre for those who don't know anything about Maasai  and of course the desperate white "bride", participating in the this  wedding scam, will pay for it. She will pay to buy her humiliation and decline. Not only that the Maasai doesn't need to pay any money to marry mzungu, mzungu  has to pay money to marry a Maasai ! Absurd but white women for unknown reason have decided that it's ok. Wedding in the bush with a mzungu is welcomed and recommended by parents of Maasai because of benefits which such a "wedding" will provide them. All the people around (parents, siblings, cousins, children and also  neighbors) know very well that it's  only for fun. And they have fun for sure. :) They will perform the most disgusting and cruel theatre someone has ever seen. Everyone there will pretend that Maasais don't care about the age. But actually they care. They don't ignore the age at all and they all know very well how old that mzungu is, and they are laughing behind her back, but because the money is all they need from the mzungu, they will forget about the age for a while, at least until  the mzungu is usable for them. And anyway it's not important, it's not an issue for them, because they know it's not real. They know, it's only an illusion, it's only a theatre and it's a fraud. All of them know it, only one who doesn't is the mzungu.  

Age is really important for the Maasai and white woman older than they are is nobody for them, just wallet. Also in cases where the age difference is around 10 years. But the sad enough, the young ladies are not in better position. Young ladies can loose with Maasais much more than those who are older. They can and they will loose the youth which nobody and never will give them back. Maasais will just steal it. The youth and expensive days of fertility. The woman in the age between 25 and 35 has the biggest chance to find really a good man for the future what Maasai simply never can be. Even if he would want - he can't be a good partner for a mzungu because if not his mindset, then his culture will simply not allow it to happen.

Maasais use the sentence "the age is only the number" often but the reason why is because it's their tactics how to catch  a woman. They can convince the ladies that while in Europe they are already too old for the men - in Africa and especially in the tribe of Maasai - they are OK because the age is only the number for the  Maasai. This is one of the biggest lie you can hear from the mouth of the Maasai. 

Don't trust them anything. They are lying to you. If the Maasai men (especially those at Zanzibar) really know something - then they know HOW TO LIE.