There are just 2 ways, how beachboys can use you. To get your money by the lies and frauds or to use you for going to Europe looking for better life there.
You can take a maasai to Europe, why not... But don't do that with a lazy beachboy you met him walking and jobless on the beach, hunting just white women ! You will regret it later. Beachboy already tasted easy money, way of prostitution and he will not work anymore.
But also for good maasais, there are many questions, you should answer before an action.
Can they find better life there ?
Could be the life in Europe just that better life for them ?
Are they able quickly to adapt for different life style ?
Are they able to work hard and lose whole the freedom they used to have ?
Is it possible for them to be happy when suddenly they will lose the position of the king?
Can they be suddenly "nobody" in some different environment and still to be happy ?
Can they be dependent from woman completely and still to be satisfied?
Can they to earn big money in Europe - with no education, no craft, no abilities and no knowledge ?
These are the questions we would like to know the answers. From observing the couples we see on social media, we would like to tell that beachboy can adapt, but... Deeper look is enough to understand, reality could be different from what we can see in hurry.
Before we started to create the article on this topic, we've gotten the e-mail. And because we would not write it better and more complex, we decided just to publish it as we got it. Let's think together what is there written and make conclusion by yourself:
Can they adapt in a civilized country? I'll answer a question with a question. )))) And why should they?
I have spoken to many Africans, locals, Maasais, Mzungus who fly to Africa a lot and they all said they would never want to live in Europe. ))) There is very difficult, hard work, high taxes and prices. Just to go to Europe as a guest for a little while - YES. But to live there - NO!!!
And will they be able to adapt and live for several years?
Listen...
you found a dog on Zanzibar, you like it and you understand that you need to take dog with you to Europe. You arrange all the documents, visas, vaccinations, crate for transport, air tickets and much more.
The dog is not involved in this whole process, and at this time everything is just enjoying life and the fact that you feed it.
You flew home to Europe and arranged a wonderful place for the dog nearby, bought new clothes and walk and eat together in restaurants, pay for everything, and you and the dog are happy together..... It's just that the dog is not involved in the process again.
The dog is still enjoying the benefits from the owner.....and so on...
The maasai beachboy who were brought to Europe didn't lift a finger to deserve it (oops, sorry, he worked hard as a dick).
In Europe, a woman creates hothouse conditions for him: he lives in her house and never thinks how much it costs, he eats her food, she dresses him (they love to dress up) and takes him to the salon for a haircut, she buys jewelry and even a car.
A woman goes with him to state institutions and draws up an allowance, enrolls in free language courses. All this will probably take a year. So what does he do all year? Nothing!!! He uses money, connections, the position of a woman. I think it's a great adaptation. )))
And only about a year later, after passing the language exam, maybe a woman from her acquaintances will find him a job, perhaps as a cook. But not all of them will go to work as cooks.))) Another option is to take courses and work in a nursing home. It all depends on where the woman can arrange him.
Again, I don't see any effort from the guy here.
Everything is done by a woman.
That is, in fact, it is a pet. Such a guy will agree to everything that a woman will do for him. Himself only in the process almost does not participate.
If maasai has been working for a couple of years and sees how difficult it is to earn money in an honest way, then a little understanding comes into his head.
But often in the first stages in 1-6 months or even a year, he returns (runs away) home. Since the goal was not to stay there, they know that there is a lot of work to be done in Europe. And it's not their way of life.
To understand who is who in social networks, what is behind a beautiful picture, just look at what he is doing, where he works. If he works, he usually posts a lot of photos from work, because it's hard work and he's proud of it. Then we can say that in this case the guy has adapted. If he is always only "for beauty", then this is a pet and adaptation has not happened.
But even in the case of those who have adapted and work, you need to know where he spends his money?))) Everything is simple.
If he gives money to the general budget, then yes, the guy really wants a family with that woman. If he does not give all the money or only half, and sends the rest home or saves up to return home, then he came only to work. And it's temporary for him. As soon as he saves up for a house, cows, he will run away.
That is, a man will not build or plan to build a second home for himself in Tanzania if he believes that he has a home and a family in Europe. To help the father's family, yes, but these are small amounts. Not more than 50$/month
But let me reiterate where I started. ))))
None of them WANT to live in Europe!
I have been through a lot with my Maasai and there have been moments of happiness, usually when I paid for everything and helped, but mostly it was a nightmare, manipulation, insults and deceit, and even theft. And I started to draw up documents for a trip to Europe, but I really saw that my boyfriend did not show any initiative at all, only words, and therefore I stopped.
ReplyDeleteNow, of course, I stopped this connection altogether. But many of my friends still consider these guys their favorites. All of them are deceiving themselves, not ready to admit that they are buying guys' attention. Everyone sincerely believes in feelings. But all the girls have the same messages about love and domestic problems, and these guys act the same way.
In each of your articles, the essence of these people is revealed, not one beachboy, but all the Masai who work with the mzungu. All my friends want to say: "stop paying and see how quickly your lover's passion will pass."
But it is the European mentality that prevents them from doing this - the girls believe that they should help the family of their beloved, because this is very important if this is a loved one. Oh gods, what a wonderful Masai game!!! How quickly can you give a sense of intimacy to most white women...
a very small percentage of men from the beach will actually want to live in Europe or another country. they love Tanzania very much and they are free there and everything is easy for them. I never understood why women take them to their place. Of course I understand to show a different life, That we are different from them. See how they are surprised at everything like children. filled with these childhood emotions that have long faded in us. but they are also temporary. he will leave sooner or later. If he doesn't want something, then why do something for him? this is not when will not be appreciated.
ReplyDeleteTruth be told, who wouldn't want to live on the beach, be free and do what they wanted with no worries other than what to eat and when's the next party?! Especially if they are young and healthy...
ReplyDeleteAs a mzungu I would like to be able to do that, and I actually felt envy towards them and their lifestyle... :))
The problem is when you rely on lies and deceit to finance this lifestyle.