WHITE WOMAN IN THE MAASAI BOMA

It's almost unbelievable how white women spending from 2 up to 14 days with Maasais scammers in the boma know everything about that tribe. But especially they always magically know that Maasai culture is beautiful and they are singing this song about beautiful Maasai people through all possible social media, creating new channels to impress people with ADVENTURES with their exotic lovers, with millions of selfies from the Maasais bush. With maasai children who are sending kisses to the camera, with lambs in arms and of course, together with their Maasai lovers they pose in front of poor cottages wearing clothes of Maasai women and adorning their neck, feet and wrists with many different Maasais bracelets and necklaces. These pictures are always the same, those men are also the same, only faces of women are changing at time. It's almost like when you are making the selfie with Eifell tower once you are in Paris. Everyone has to have one. IT MUST BE. It would be not that bad, if there would be not scams behind.  

White women wrongly think there is something exotic and special to publish the pictures from Maasai boma with Maasai scammers. It's the same absurdity like publish the picture with prisoner who is closed for his crimes he did and at same time to be proud of it. There is nothing  for being proud that you fell into trap with these people. It's more like shame and that's why after time (mostly it takes years) when women will finally understand there is nothing to be proud of being with a Maasai - they will delete all the pictures with him from their social media. Everyone knows (expats and locals) who Maasais beachboys are and what they are doing. The only people who don't have any idea are fresh tourists and fresh tourists are the main target of Maasai beachboys. They really don't need anyone who knows something. That's why they will try to hold their new victims in distance from white expats living at island for longer. The common story is that it's not any good idea to go closer to specific woman because she is very very bad person. Everyone who knows is a bad person for them, everyone who knows can potentially put their great business to the danger.  

Most of white women, most of tourists in general don't exactly understand that Maasai bush is not any circus, not any ZOO and not any attraction for rich white people. They are living creatures there who live their lives exactly according to specific rules, habits and traditions which definitely do not resemble any fairy tale. There is no fairy tale in Maasai bush and especially Maasai women can only dream about easy and simple life full of love, respect from men and harmony. 

The position of white woman in Boma is completely different. For her are valid different rules. A white woman cannot be beaten, white woman doesn't need to take care about anything, white woman can eat meat with men each times she wants, white woman has prepared hot water for showering each evening and one very important thing what white woman can always do - she can run away once she will be not treated there in good way (also with all her money) what is really not desirable. 

But in the case of Maasai women, the whole fairy tale about beautiful Maasai culture is a bit different. But do uneducated Maasais women and girls know that they could have different life with kind men? Do they know they can be surrounding by love and attention, having life partners who are helping them with everything? They don't have any idea how they could be treated, that's why they are happy in their misery with  Maasai men. Sometimes lack of knowledge and experiences can be sweet. 

In this blog is written already few things about Maasai culture, how they are living and it's written here also few about the position of women in tribe of Maasais. But we can look more deeply what does it mean to be a maasai woman in the Maasai tribe and what does it mean to be white woman there. Let's begin:

Men and women in the Maasai tribe are not equal. Men are superior and having different rights. Chauvinistic and  polygamous Maasai culture in which women have been mistreated for centuries does not like to change its ways. 

Women are treated by men mostly with disrespect and the only exception for Maasai man is his mother, who plays special role in his life. Other women including his wife or wives - they are not equal to him. First wife has always the highest position in Boma among other wives, girls and women. Because Maasai women don't know other life, they think it's normal. All that humiliation and abuse is a norm for them.

Women are often beaten for each small mistake and this behavior is in Maasai culture common and accepted. Maasai woman can run back home to complain, but her father will always send her back, she can't stay in her original home - away from abusive husband for longer. In the case of divorce which is very rare among Maasais - woman has no right to get her own children. Children always stay with her husband in his boma. If once a woman will decide to divorce and process will be successful, she will not see her children anymore. 

For Maasai woman are children very important - because woman without children doesn't have any value. More children woman has, more respected she is. If woman can't have children, it's always her fault, it cannot be a fault of her husband. Maasai men are very promiscuous. Promiscuity and polygamy are not the same thing. The male promiscuity means if a man has a casual sexual relationship with many women whenever circumstances allow it, while polygamy means that a man has more than one official wife in the way of marriage. Because men are living very free sexual life, also those who are married already have many lovers (not only white women at Zanzibar, but also the girls and married women from Maasai tribe and also Swahili women if they will get some opportunity). Maasais don't use any protection because they don't like and that's why they are suffering from different sexual transmitted diseases sometimes without any visible symptoms. Some of those STD can cause in them infection and subsequent damage to the testicular tubes in which sperm travel, whilst other STD can have a direct impact on sperm production. These include chlamydia, gonorrhea and ureaplasma. But that one who is guilty for infertility is always woman. Would be nice to say it's due the lack of education, but all those Maasai men hunting women at Zanzibar have newest phones and unlimited access to Internet and most of them know how to read and many of them understand foreign languages or Swahili. But for them is more comfortable to blame women for infertility instead of taking own responsibility for such cases. Women are in very bad position because they don't have any right even to protect their own health. Maasai men often infect them by different STD what can also case female infertility. But there is nothing what these poor women can do against it. They have to have sex with their unfaithful husband every time he will want. However sick he is from his promiscuous life. How great situation. Hard to imagine.

Women are very cheap and hard working servants for men. They have to work from early morning until late evening while Maasai men are sitting in the forest and talking with other Maasai men for hours and hours. Men can do whatever what and women can't complain loudly about it. Almost everything happening in the boma is responsibility of women, men don't help with anything except of cattle. 

In very early morning women look for cattle, cook tea for breakfast and serve it to men, after women prepare all for cooking like water and wood (water is almost never directly in boma and they have to go far away to bring it - many times they are sending small children). Also they have to find the wood for a fire. Maasais are using open fire often, directly in the cottages. They need a lot of wood each day. Women also take care about children and they wash the clothes. They are washing almost each single day. After all they need to prepare a dinner, feed the family including men. After each meal they need to wash the dishes and clean the house where men are eating, because men are eating like pigs on the ground, making a lot of mess around them without any effort to eat like normal human beings. They could eat normally and save the women from cleaning but they don't really care. They are adding more work to their women without any empathy. Only to see Maasai men to eat - it's heartbreaking. Because woman is that one who will clean all that mess. After dinner women need to prepare hot water for men who want to shower. Before darkness all the cattle have to be safe behind the fence , prepared for sleeping what is also responsibility of women. Small cow babies and goat babies together with chicken are often sleeping in cottages with women and children.  Late evening after dinner they can finally rest in the cottage full of irritating smoke. Sometimes during the day they are sitting outside and making bracelets from the small beads, what is their only hobby. Next joy in the life of Maasai woman is to visit cow market from time to time, going to church to sing the songs and of course some ceremonies which are common in Maasai bush will take them out of the terrible stereotype for a while.

Day of woman in the Maasai boma is long and hard, with few personal freedom only but with many responsibilities. This is also the reason why women don't protest if their husband will bring next woman, because next woman can help with all. 

But to describe the life of Maasai woman is not the main point of this article. More important is to ask few basic questions we never got any answer to it:

"HOW IS IT POSSIBLE THAT EDUCATED WHITE WOMEN COMING TO BUSH SINGING SONGS ABOUT BEAUTIFUL CULTURE CAN OBSERVE AND ACCEPT ALL THAT INEQUALITY AND INJUSTICE AND AT THE SAME TIME THEY ARE ABLE TO BE  HAPPY THERE SEEING ALL THAT? HOW IS IT POSSIBLE THAT WHITE WOMEN DON'T FEEL ANY EMPATHY WITH MAASAI WOMEN? PUTTING SMILE ON THEIR FACES AND FLYING THROUGH THE BUSH LIKE HAPPY BIRDS? WHERE WHOLE THIS IGNORANCE IS COMING FROM?" 

The fact is that almost all those white ladies who are enjoying their holidays in Maasai bush would die in the skin of Maasai woman just in 3 days but they still confidently speak about the beautiful Maasai culture. Normally they would cry and run away as soon and as far as possible in such conditions. These white women are only adding more work to Maasai women who have to take care about white female lovers of their husbands. Maasai women have to clean everything after the passionate night which white woman recently had in the cottage with her Maasai lover. It's terrible and humiliating, if not for the Maasai woman, it should be terrible feeling for a white lady. But for some reason it's not. For some reason the white woman decided that everything is perfect and easily acceptable. The hypocrisy doesn't have any borders. White women are those who should feel empathy with others because of education and life style full of sentiment, but where is their empathy in the Maasai bush?

"WHY WHITE WOMEN ARE JEALOUS AND THEY WOULD NEVER ACCEPT ANY POLYGAMY WHICH MAASAI WOULD LIKE TO HAVE WITH ANOTHER WHITE WOMAN BUT THEY ACCEPT ALL HIS MAASAI WIVES IN THE BUSH?" 

This is really a good question with no answer. Many white women going to bush to fuck with Maasais KNOW VERY WELL about Maasai wives of their lovers but they accept it and they are having fun with those men in front of the eyes of their Maasai wives. Those white ladies would never accept any other white woman in their relationship with a Maasai. The answer could be that white women are not taking Maasai women as equal to them. They don't take them seriously. The white women - in the same way as Maasai men - take these women in the bush like inferior. They ignore the existence of Maasai women like they would be less than air. Mzungus are not jealous because of Maasai women and it's really weird. But why someone would  be jealous because the husband/boyfriend is owning just a cow? It has to have a reason why white women are not jealous at all despite the fact that jealousy in the world of white women is normal and very common.

But at the end there is some kind of justice in this story. White ladies who are having fun in the bush with married Maasai scammers will get once all back. Karma will find all of them and it will be a day when a Maasai will leave them and he will go back to his Maasai family in the bush. Because only for their Maasai family the Maasai men feel real responsibility. Not for white woman. Maasai man will not leave his Maasai wife, not permanently, not really. Just for short business trip going to Europe, getting some money from that poor white lady, pretending love and future with her. But her role in this "love" story is only to pay. Once it will be enough for him or once she will run out of money, her Maasai will run back to his family in the bush. After all that superior behavior of white women above Maasai women - the only and real wives of a Maasai are in the Maasai boma, but nowhere else. All those ladies living with married Maasais should ask themselves: are we women really the same for each other ? Probably not.

White women should finally wake up ! But it's like a kind of strange madness what happened to them at Zanzibar. Loosing the minds, loosing self-respect, loosing the senses. Loosing all the empathy and rational thinking. Wake up call doesn't work because new victims keep coming each single day. The women who are ready to lose all for the Maasai scammer from beach at Zanzibar.